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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I hear stories that Korean guys treat you VERY differently after marriage. They may be awesome boyfriends but after the wedding, they turn 180degrees. They focus only on working, they expect you to do all the chores, they listen to their parents (esp. Your Mom-in-law) more than what you have to say. They don't give you attention because they focus more on providing for you. They expect you to blend in their culture but they wont give you the same treatment. They will try to hide the fact that you're of a different race.Is this true?I know some cultures are more traditional than others and I respect that. I've met a Korean who moved in the US in his teens so his parents are the traditional Korean kind. I really like him and want to pursue this connection with him but he did voice out that the biggest complication is that I'm not Korean (there are other reasons but I'm willing to work those out) which disheartens me. I think he is as scared as I am of the possibilities if we pursue this. I'm thinking ahead here but I only want to be with him if its going to lead to marriage (which I think is the direction he's also been thinking of based on our conversations). Were both at a marrying age but don't want to take this lightly. Can you share your experience as a married couple: Years married, the girls race, and how he treated you after marriage?Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2014): We're a married interracial couple and we haven't had any 'cultural' conflicts. It's down to the couple's values. If you have the same values and same vision of what you want in life and you are both willing to adapt to each other you will be fine.My advice is focus less on his culture. Focus on his personality and values. Unfortunately there's no questionnaire to find these out. You get to know them through his actions and choices as you spend time together. You could get an outline by asking him the man's / woman's role, parent / child relationship etc but ultimately there is no formula. Go with your gut feeling.
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