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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Im confused about my ex boyfriend, who is 31 by the way! We were together for 2.5 years. We broke up this April. He ended things with me through phone and text. I haven't seen him since April, and I have kept minimal contact just for my sanity! The first time he asked to see me, he texted me, and I told him that I prefer phone calls. We set a date to meet and talk, and then he cancelled through e-mail because of work. He never called to reschedule. Then, after 2 weeks of waiting and depression, I texted him "I realize that you don't value me as a person" just for my own sense of closure. He called me and left me a message, but I was through waiting, so I decided to stop all contact with him and never called him back. The other day he sent a message on facebook which said that he finally deleted all of our pictures from facebook and that he misses me and loves me and that I was his only love and will be the only one, and that he wishes he could have made me happy. He says he is sorry it didn't work out. Then he says Bye! I didn't answer. i just dont get it.Now, he texted me and said "Did you get my facebook message?" I said Yes, and I don't understand it. He replied with a sad face icon and never said anything else. Are these games?I dont understand why he had to tell me that he deleted our pictures from facebook, and what he wants from me.
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reader, johannabanana +, writes (20 July 2010):
 He is just trying to control you and get you to come crawling back to him. Don't do it. Don't fall into the trap of his mind games. If he ever tries to talk to you again just tell him you can do a whole hell of a lot better than someone who dumps you over the phone after all the time you put into him. And you were right he didn't respect you as a person and he doesn't deserve you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Yes, these are games, and very immature games, may I add. He couldn't do you the decency of breaking up with you in person. Instead of calling you when he couldn't make it to your meeting-up, he e-mailed you. He's stringing you along, trying to play up with your sympathies, even though he's the one who broke up with you.Continue what you're doing -- ignoring him as best you can -- for your sanity. If push comes to shove, it might be a good idea to block him on Facebook and e-mail and to just ignore his texts. He'll eventually stop. (If he doesn't, or takes contact with you too far like making threats if you don't talk to him, consider a restraining order.)
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