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writes:Hey every1.I guess today i also need some advice.I've been dating this girl i regretfully love with all my heart.Everything was rosy in the beginning even when i moved to another town due to work.However,the past two months things changed.She called less,her 4n was off more often and she sounded distant.I always suspected but never acted that she's seeing someone else until my cousin told me.She later admitted that she's seeing sum1 and she no longer loved me.Over xmas period,we got back together after i was so emotional.She even admitted to having sex with him(co-worker) only 1ce.She promised to leave him.Just after new year's day,she told me to give her space and time for her to learn to love me.I'm really scared of losing her and can't let go.How do i make this easier on myself?We still live apart and the guy she cheated on me with lives near her place.Can i trust she won't cheat on me again?Is there hope of us getting back together after being friends,as she wants?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 A woman is more in tuned with her love than for sex. It is love that make a woman stay with the man. Sex is just the icing on the cake. You should not be overtly concern about your performance. Don't worry , practice will make perfect .Just enjoy and be happy. Worrying wont help you an ounce.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really appreciate your responses but you should be aware that even if she's told me that she doesn't love me the way i love her,she still has a soft spot for me and as i'm typing we are actually back together.I know the logical thing for me is to move on but i see a future with her even though i agree with peoriaman that she really needs help and i hope i can provide that,in my own way.We had a great weekend and even ended up making love.She told me that she would try her best to work on our relationship.There's still one gray area in our relationship,our sex life isn't a great as one would expect.She always insists on the missionary position,which is really hard for me because she says i'm too heavy for her.Anyway,over da weekend we tried out other stuff but i just couldn't manage.
I must say at times that i do think of leaving her because i get the feeling at times that i'm not good enough for her especially in bed.However,she admits that no one has loved her the way i love her and she still wants me by her side.Do you think our sex life will create a problem on the rest of our relationship?
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (6 January 2008):
If you really love a person,you need to have total trust and confidence in a person. You are your worst enemy. Cast away your doubts if you want her to come back to you. Nobody can guarantee anything in this life. Temptations are everywhere and no one is perfect.Either you love her unconditionally or you love her not.
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