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writes:I am married to a wonderful man whom I learned to love deeply. I was contacted by my first boyfriend (of 30 years ago)recently and saw him.I still love him. Can that be true? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): Put it all down to experience and as part of growing up...
Don't forget that everything and everyone changes and your first love may not be that same person you remember him all those years ago..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): We all remember our first love and think that nobody can compare to them. Er, wrong! Our brains can play tricks with us at any given time.
My experience: I fell in love at the age of 15 he was 17. We split after 1 year, he met and married my friend. I moved from the area. Went back there twenty eight years later. His wife was gone. I was single. We dated. Yuk, he was horrible, he had a bad attitude. He wasn't the person i had known as a teenage girl. Keep with your memories but never ever go back. People change, they grow older and so do you. You have different outlooks and ways to when you were young.
Never, ever hurt the ones you love now.
Take care
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reader, Debs85  +, writes (1 March 2007):
Everyone has this amazing picture of their first love because it was the first time you felt that that warm gushy feeling that makes you want to melt but the truth is people change and what once seemed like the most amazing relationship in which you both seemed like you were soul mates can easily change. My best friend recently went back to her first love and to start off with things were really great for her but soon the difference in their personalities began to emerge and this person who she had put on a pedastil shattered her illusions and in some ways she wishes she hadnt gone back to him because now she can never get the image of this amazing person back and she no longer has fond warm memories of her first love.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (1 March 2007):
 I think everyone has a warm spot in their heart for their first love. When you see them again after a long absence, you get that tingly feeling and you are suddenly tossed back in time to when you were first with them. It's almost like falling into a time machine where everything else doesn't matter and you are 17 again.
Can you still be in love? Lots of time has passed and people change in 30 years, but I can't rule out that you might still love him. Is pursuing him worth ruining the relationship you have to the "wonderful man" you married? Probably not. Just keep your memories and move forward with your husband.
Good luck!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (1 March 2007):
 I think we always hold a candle for our first love. After all nobody can make you feel quite that way again however hard they try! However, getting back with them in later life is never the same. He and you have changed so much and in all reality aren't right for each other anymore. Enjoy reminiscing about old times but remember you're married and it can't go any further than that.
CD
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reader, Flowers +, writes (1 March 2007):
 i wont xactly call the love! i will call it that ya Awsome! look feeling thing.
Besides perhaps he jsut wants a close friend to talk to and miss talking to u!
Point being ure Married get over it!
Being friends aint bad att all.
ya know how they say He's the one... but how will u feel if ure husbands gf from the past visited with him or wants to give another try ? think about that. Are u willing to end a Wonderfull marrage and what if it does not work out if u go back to ure previous bf.
Sweetie follow ure hearth and not ure mind!
take it easy hope to hear from ya soon!
x x x
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