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writes:My sister has a affair with a married man, it was a lovely affair, and they had slept together one night, from that day he is not talking with my sister and she suffers lot from that. Because he had told my sister what he did for my sister is not correct and now he also suffers from that. So I can't just wait and see, so I planned to send a message to his wife saying he is having a relationship with a woman. So I think then she will let him to go and she will get divorce. So my sister can be with him. So is it OK to send a message to his wife saying he is having a relationship with a woman. I think it is ok because he is not happy with his wife and she also not happy with him.
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reader, onelostlove  +, writes (22 February 2012):
Please don't send the wife a text. I am a wife that found out that my husband was cheating on me over texting n seeing this woman. We have 3 little kids. We where married for almost 10 years. Do not destroy a family for a selfish gain. I made the choice of asking my husband to leave. He's with this woman and we all hurt. So please don't send it. Also u have no idea what this man is saying to your sister about his wife. Bottom line is if he will cheat on his wife I bet u anything he will cheat on your sister. Be a sister and tell her to find one that's not married. There's tons of single men looking. Also if your sister is willing to be second enjoy the hurt that comes with it. Its a shame people are so willing to destroy familys. For selfish gain him n your sister. Good luck!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 February 2012):
 I believe that what is "going on" between this man and your sister IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.... and - except for your compunction to butt in where you are not welcome - there's no reason why you should be doing ANYTHING.....Don't be a jerk... let your sister live her own life, without YOU interfering and making waves.....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 February 2012):
 It is NOT ok for you to send a note.
Your sister is wrong to have a relationship with another woman's husband and expect anything but bad treatment.
He is wrong for lying to his wife and cheating on her as well.
The wife may know and look the other way, she may not know. Either way it's not your place in any way shape or form to make her aware of it.
oh and just to give you a different POV... even if you do tell her (which YOU should NOT do) it may backfire on you and your sister. she may dig her heels in and keep her man and to do this she may harm your sister.
bad idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): NO its not Ok to send a message to his wife.
She is the innocent one here, and probably really nice, she may know he cheats and accepts it, maybe she doesn't. But its none of your business -
Its your sister you need to talk to, tell her to stay away from a man who cheats and lies, he is never going to make her happy plus he IS married - to somebody else,spoken for,not available.
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