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writes: I have a problem with my little sister. She is 12 and is in sixth grade. She has this boyfriend who she has been going out with for 3 months now.The thing is they didn't even know each other when they met (guess their friends hooked them up). They don't talk or anything! When I asked her about it she said that since she really likes him she doesn't know what to say. She'll just freeze up and turn bright red.She also told me that she really does love him but she just doesn't know if he likes her as much as she likes him. She said she wants to hug him and let him know she cares, but since they're young I don't think her boyfriend would take her seriously (he might not have matured yet).What advice can I give her? I have never seen her so in love with a boy in my life! SWEETIE PIE :-] Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): Hey I'm a girl and I know how it feels when you don't know a guy that well but you feel that if anything ever happened to him I'll go crazy and if he flirted with someone I would hate the girl he was flirting with give you little sister some slack she'll find true love someday and she'll know how it really feels when she gets to know that person more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2006): hello im twelve years old and really fancy this boy and i darent ask him out incase he says no and then i will be humiliated
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reader, pressure free +, writes (28 January 2006):
i had excactly the same problem when i was 12 years old i had this boyfriend called todd and we really loved each other but did nothng about it my advice is ask on of her friends to set them up on a date at the weekend just them to alone it will give them time to get to know each other
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (22 January 2006):
 Well, since I try to help or give advice, of some sort, to everyone here goes. (Incidentally, I asked my nephew, geez the things I do for nice people :-)) My source (nephew, age 11) says that he likes: girls, bicycles, soccer, baseball, video games, drawing and wrestling (Not in that order either). I agree that girls mature faster and for the sake of discussion we'll just say that's true in this case. Tell her to try these things when talking to him and he'll will get excited about them. Good luck, Ed.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (19 January 2006):
 Her reluctance and the fact she's unsure about all of this show me that she is just not ready for this kind of relationship. At 12, I don't believe we know what love is and all relationships at this age lead to is sex we regret.
If I was you, I would encourage her to go out with her friends, go to parties, go shopping and forget about guys. She's got her whole life to get annoyed by them so tell her to enjoy her childhood. We've all been there, young girls with big crushes but that's all they are; crushes. Don't let them become anything more.
I know you're trying to help her but I think you're looking at this from the wrong angle. She is nervous in front of him because she hasn't matured enough yet to be able to cope with a proper bf/gf relationship. Hope things go ok, good luck.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (19 January 2006):
 Well, she's far too young to be in love with a boy! You say you've never seen her so in love with a boy! I hope not, she's only 12 for God's sake!
Not only has he not matured, neither has she. This is good and you don't need to give her relationship advice, not yet!
What seems to have happened here is a bit of peer pressure which has thrown them together but because they haven't grown up yet, they don't really know what to do!
What I would suggest you say to her is that she is very young and she may be a little more mature than him but to accept their 'relationship' more so as a friendship and to allow things to develop a little later on when they are both ready and more mature.
Don't encourage her to hug him, more so advise her to let him know she likes him and that she values their friendship.
Suggest she can overcome her shyness with him by just talking about general things such as school, music.
Think of their relationship as a friendship even though she really does like him. You don't want to encourage her to get heavy with this boy as the consequences could be extremely difficult.
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