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writes: My ex-fiance and I broke up about 2 months ago. He blames me for our relationship ending, but he's the one who broke it off. I'm still in love with him but he wants nothing to do with me besides discussing our son, and it's probably because he's already moved on with someone else. Is there anything I can do to get him back and mend our broken family?
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (14 March 2006):
 Frankly it doesn't look like you can do anything to change his mind, certainly not at the moment.The most important thing right now is that he maintains contact with your son and is still involved in his life.You may not like the fact he's moved on so quickly, but there's little you can do to change the fact he has.I know this is probably heartbreaking for you, but take a step back, remain on good terms and see what the future holds, his new relationship may not last and he may have a change of heart. Maybe in the future there'll be a chance of reconciliation, but don't stop living your own life in the meantime, keep your friends and family close for support and see what happens. Keep your options open and who knows you could go on to meet someone else too.I wish you luck!
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reader, missbunbury +, writes (14 March 2006):
 I'm sorry, but I've got to disagree with chav123's advice below. It would be really wrong of you to try and use your son to get this man back. Your ex is entitled to see his little boy, whether you two are a couple or not, and any attempt to bargain with the ex using the boy as bait would be unfair to your son and would also almost certainly make your ex feel extremely negative about you too.
Without knowing more about the resons for the break-up, it's hard to say whether you have a chance of getting him back, but I guarantee you that if there is even a small chance, you can make it grow by showing this man how responsible you are and that you are always putting the child you have together first.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (14 March 2006):
 Why does he blame you for the relationship ending, and do you know for certain that he has moved on with someone else.
Why do you still want him, was the relationship a good one and if not do you really want to save it for the sake of your son.
Being a single mum is not easy but it is better than being in a lovless relationship, or one were you are not happy or are rowing constantly.
If you try to blackmail him he may come back for the sake of your child but do you want him back under these circumstances, he would forever resent you and may treat you and your son badly as a result.
He would not stay back for long and would you be sure that he would not be seeing this other lady, and could you mend what was wrong with the relationship to make it good again.
Have a seriouse think about the relationship before you do anything to get him back.
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reader, chav123 +, writes (14 March 2006):
Why don,t you say that your son is missing him and what you to come back or say If ya don,t come back you cant see your son any more and also say your son or your new life and then see what happen
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