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writes:How do I get him to talk about our relationship? I'm not sure where we stand, things are progressing fairly quickly but neither of us have mentioned where our relationship is going. In the very beginning, there was his problematic ex-girlfriend that stopped us being officially together. His words were .."if circumstances were different, I'd really want to be in a relatioship with you..." That ex-girlfriend has moved on now, yet nothing has been said about where we each stand now. How can I get the topic to come up, and when I do, how can we discuss it?
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reader, Kenj +, writes (7 March 2010):
 Ask him outright, most guys would appreciate a strait and honest question / answer.
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reader, lovesickk  +, writes (7 March 2010):
Hi,
He said this to whom? you or the ex?
"if circumstances were different, I'd really want to be in a relatioship with you..."
If it was to you, apparently he does not have plans with you in a near future while the ex is around. You could ask him direct and straight, guys prefer that instead of approaching slowly. But catch him in a good mood, while he's being caring to you maybe, and say something like you were playing but a bit curious... "how do you picture yourself in 5 years?" If he doesn't mention you, ask him where you stand there... I think that would give you an ideaa... But, I'm not a counselor or anything, just a troubled person...
Good luck!
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