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writes:So, I'm 19. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year and a half. He's 22. A month before our 1 year anniversary he cheated on me. I only found this out 2 months later, from the girl he'd cheated on me with. We broke up when I found out, I was devastated, I really didn't see it coming. We got back together several weeks later after having many talks and discussing how to make it work. That was nearly 5 months ago. We've had our good and bad times and most of the time I am very happy. But my head is eating itself over thoughts about him and this girl. I've changed, I never used to be jealous, I really didn't mind if he spoke to girls. Now, I get crazy jealous if he talks to other girls, I read his texts behind his back, I check to see who speaks to on facebook etc. Am I ever going to be able to go back to the way I was before the cheating? I don't like who I've become, it's made me realise how much he has hurt me, mentally and emotionally. Anyone else going through this? Will this work or will my jealousy ruin everything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): My relationship has gotten worse. I'm a very angry girl. A totally changed person. And he's done the right things and isn't secretive. He told me very quickly after the incident, a matter of hours. But sometimes I wish I just left him. He did this, he doesn't deserve me, see-ya later. You will never forget. It's not easy. This was nearly two years ago.
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reader, zedd  +, writes (13 March 2010):
I think you can't solve this by yourself, you just have to talk to him about the whole thing. Why did he cheat? Is he sorry for that? You may be able to talk this through but if you want my advice, I would dump him. The reason is simple: I am not the jealous type and I could forgive cheating to my gf (I did it actually) but only if she is the one who tells me what happened, explains it and says she's sorry. Everyone can have a second chance but they have to ask for it first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): If you have had talks etc and sorted this matter out it is best you forgive him. Do you really love him? If you do forgive and forget. Maybe it was a stupid mistake. I no there is mo excuse but if you love him and want things to work explain that. As to checking his facebook. Tell him. Just say your insecure and you would like to no things are ok. But seriously either love him back and try to be happy or leave him. I cheated on my bf about after that long because I have to admit I got a little bored.Maybe spice things up so you no hecwont cheat. He spiced things up and we have been happy ever since.It actually opened our comminications to a new level. Tell him about the facebook checking as been truthful now I'd important more than ever and spice it up girl!! Good luck!
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