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writes:My boyfriends mom has cancer and he has been different ever since, this I can understand. But he got more distant. And I got worried about him and started texting him to much at work because he was pretty much unable to reach any other way. He got mad at me for the texting because it got him in trouble at work. And he told me to leave him alone, so did that few months passed. In all the months he was still doing nice things like randomly sending me money or got me the new windows 7 for my computer etc..but he wouldnt talk about us. One day I decide to call him and he finally answers and I ask him if hes ready or will he talk to me, I told him if you dont want to be with me just say that and he said ill just call you tonight. Had a sad tone to his voice and very upset. He didnt call me. What can I do anything? Just leave him alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is blocking himself out emotional and mental because of all the strains going on that may include close people in his life and drowning himself in work and staying to himself. Hopeful hell come around when hes ready some people esp guys want to be left alone many will over pour in work or even block out people in there lives. Some don't it varies he may be very close to his mom. I'd give this some time he may be trying to hold on to you with the gifts but can't find the words just yet.
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (11 August 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,I think that you should talk to him... make an excuse like "ohhh I got you a little present would you come and collect it" and tell him that your there for him if he needs anything. Basically just tell him that you understand what he is going through and that you guys can get through it together. Reassure him and everything is gonna be okay with his mother and you know just be there for him. Sometimes if something bad or sad has happened small gestures like making him dinner or just spending time together to do what he wants really helps.Hopefully when his mother goes through treatment and get better he would change a little but you gotta tell him how to feel and don't let him coz this is a bad time to leave him alone coz no one wanna feel like their in the dark. Men in particular (hope I'm not stereotyping) but they don't wanna let women or their partner know that they're scared inside or wanna think about the worse. So just tell him how you feel and stick with him coz you guys can overcome this.Hope my advice helps!Good luck!Lots of love,Ima FreAk!x
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