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Can I avoid running from love?

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Question - (3 July 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 3 July 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I got back together with an old flame last month (20yrs ago old flame!), we have spoken loads on phone/ by text and have agreed to take things slowly. I've met his family and friends, he has no kids/ ex wives etc. and is an absolute darling. We see each other once or twice a week, haven't said I love you or had sex yet. It's all going amazingly well. Do I love him? I'm falling in love with him yes, everytime I see him/ talk to him I feel it get stronger. After my awful marriage and subsequent divorce a decade ago, I never thought I'd seriously date etc. again never mind fall in love. I still want to take things slowly, I'm loving taking things slowly, I feel much more sure and less pushed into anything than I ever have before. I'm being treated like a princess and I'm loving spoiling him too. His parents/ friends tell me they've never seen him like this, they never usually meet anyone he is associated with and he is smitten... so it doesn't appear to be one sided at the minute.

What's the problem then you might ask? I can see my future with this man, it terrifies me - not at the thought of him in my future, but the thought that I might not be quite so in control of my feelings as I thought does. How on earth do I make sure I don't run scared of my own feelings? I don't want to let love go before it even has a proper chance to take hold...

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A female reader, sammy1986 United Kingdom +, writes (3 July 2011):

i would ignore your feelings and listen to your heart do what feels right he is obviously in love with you and sounds like you are him just go with the flow see what happens don,t be afraid of how you are feeling

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