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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I am married-15 years and the guy has Been married 10. We have begun a very strange relationship and I need some help figuring it out. First, I am not going to leave my family but I do think of the man as someone that I would want to grow old with versus my current husband. It sound terrible I know but my husband has done things to me that I can't get over. I pretend and I try to be the best mom I can be for the kids so I would not do anything to abandon them.This man has begun a text relationship with me. He says very flirty things to me but holds back because he doesn't know where I am at with things in my head and doesnt want to disrespect me. We are soul mates in every way. I am attracted to him like I have never been to any one else. I have only seen him a few times thru work but this is a texting an email relationship. I know what I want someday but will never come out and say it. I want him to wait until families are grown but what is that he wants from me? Does he want an affair, just lonely or the same that I do. I respect him to much to ask in ask. I am dont think i am wrong about his feelins but he has saidto much and hinted about how attractive he finds me to just want to be my friend. Any thoughts would be helpful. I am going crazy. I know affairs Are wrong and this is at least emotional on my end but I won't take it to the next level.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): Don't do it! I had a friend go through this just a few months ago, she ended up fooling around with the guy and now he doesn't want anything to do with her. She is now more hurt and upset than ever and doesn't know how to go about her life. The bottom line is currently you are unavailable and for you to continue to text and email like you have done because you are tormenting yourself and him. I know that is probably not what you want to hear. But if your marriage is done then you need to get out of it with the same respect that you would want your husband to show you. I always go by the saying if you are not mature enough to get out of a relationship then you are not mature enough to be in a relationship. Good luck!
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