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writes:Hi guys. So I really need some advice. My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago and I have been distraught without him. I cut contact owever, because I read it was the best thing to do if I ever wanted to get him back. He got back in contact with me recently and has been telling me that he loves me and misses me. I have had quite a guard up though, obviously enough. He initiates all the contact and has asked me if I believe we can make things work and if I know what I want. For fear of getting hurt I have not given straight answers. The thing id, I'm confused..if he really wanted me back would he not just come straight out and ask me?? I am terrified of getting hurt again but I do love him very much. Please help:(
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reader, califnan  +, writes (7 September 2009):
 Dear Anonymous; The anonymous reply was correct .. If you would wish better and more complete advice, it would be good for more information.I think that it was good for you to cut contact with him, because he broke up with you - not because you read you should.. But now that he is back speaking with you - it would be Best if you answered his questions fully and from your heart.. If it is a committed relationship that you wish and .. a relationship Without further breakups and heartbreak - then tell him .. Nothing to fear by being truthful with him on this, because this is something you would probably wish, and have a right to ask from Any relationship now or in future from someone else..
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): Hey sweety I'm kinda in somewhat in the same situation as you.. How long yah was togetter? Why yah broke up first of all. It hard to give advice I don't really what kind of relation it was. But I'm going to assume that you was the your problem is that you been acting too needy and wimpy around your ex, by constantly telling him that you love him wanting to spend every moment with him and always letting him have his way. In the beginning a dude is awed by such care and devotion, but with time it gets boring and starts to get on his nerves. There is no challenge. He can have you running to her doorstep at any time (at least that’s what He thinks). If you want him back; You are playing the right cards. By not contacting him. Alway keep him guessing. I can stresst this much! Don't give him want he wants watever Its money, sex, looking for attention. My point is even if he want you back.." Look at it this way" You have the better card in the deck. He want something you have, he's not getting somewhere else. Just don't give in and make him fight for it to show has true colors. Sweet cakes. Hey you a lady, neverdrop you head chin up.Good Luck....I should listen to my advice! Lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOur relationship was amazing. I was so so happy and I know he was too. He is an extremely insecure guy though and would often become paranoid about me ''not loving him enough'', and silly things like that. He really covers up his insecurity with arrogance so it's so hard to know what he is thinking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): You really haven't given us enough information for solid advice. You haven't said what your relationship with him was like and what your break-up was over. That is what I would base this decision on, not the fact that he misses and loves you.
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