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writes:I have a extremely complicated and messy situation here it might not make perfect sense but I will try to explain the best I canlast march i went to visit a friend of my ex's in Seattle because she said if i ever wanted to visit america i was welcome to use her as a contact to get in the country well anywayI was at seattle airport and my ex's friend (lets call her B) arrived with a friend of her's (lets call her S) we then got the bus to downtown and let to a bar together, well i really didnt think anything of it but I was shooting basketball hoops and S came to play with me, throughout the evening S would say little hints like 'oh he's handsome' which at the time i thought nothing of until events later had taken place. well as the bar closed we walked to the bus stop and S was being extremely hostile towards me and i found this weird until one point in the journey S said to B 'So B do you like your frrriiieennddd' in a very bitter and sarcastic voice, my first impression was that this girl was a bit of a b**** we got home and went to bed, (I was sleeping in B's room)the next morning i went down to the kitchen and S shared her coffee with me, i didnt really say significant just small talk after i left to go exploring and i came back in the afternoon,now S shares a room with her friend and i went upstairs and hung out in her room and she made me a burrito for lunch, i went out again because they had to visit a house as they was moving the next dayI went to visit the house then went to hang out downtown and then came back to the old house to help everyone move there stuff it was then during one of the rides between houses that S said something to me 'I would like to keep in contact with you after you leave' I found this quite odd as it seemed like out of the blue.anyway we was settling in to the new house when everybody had gone to bed and S was like 'you know its pretty cold here in the living room you can sleep in my room if you like' so i go into her room and settle on the floor, then she was like 'oh no you can sleep in my bed, dont worry nothing weird will happen'so i get in bed with her and i was shivering so then the next thing she asks 'would you like a cuddle' so we snuggled then i started kissing her on the cheek when she started laughing saying 'oh thats so sweet and adorable' she then admitted to me that when she saw me at the airport she was like 'who's that guy i think he's really cute' we kissed for a while but she made it clear we wouldnt have sexanyway the next morning we talked a little and i went off to go shopping i went out and i drank a few beers and came back then again me B and S went to the store to grab some more stuff and we walked back it was also during this time that S referred to me as 'sweetie' but again in a very bitter and sarcastic way.we get back to the house and drink a little more and me and S made burritos together. then S said 'if you want to go to sleep your welcome anytime to go in my room'i go to bed and we go straight to sleep as we were both exhausted, however in the morning things got heated between us and we nearly end up having sex...however S said she would not have sex until she knew me better (this implied she's not after a one night of mischief) B was starting to realise something was going on between me ans S and S felt embarrassed about thisi also felt uneasy about the situation as i had come half way across the world to hang out with a friend and i end up getting friendly with her friend within one day, i dont know it made me feel like a sleazebagS then said she's got work and she wont be back till late so not to wait around for her, i by coincidence was on the same bus as her in the night, i then asked her would she like to do something tomorrow she said yes if she wasnt busy.. then a argument happened.....I accidentally went in somebody else's room by mistake and then they accused me of stealing 10 dollars, and they was about to start punching me when i had a panic attack. S jumped into defend me...then the guy (lets call him R) started going on about oh why are u getting so defensive for..why are u inviting this guy to sleep in J's room (her roommate) when your not even paying any rent to stay hereit turns out he had mislaid his 10 dollars anyway, i then announced to S that i was leaving for Canada tomorrow as i didnt feel welcome in the house and the situation was too messy, she then gave me all her contact details and i said to her that i would like to talk to her in private which she agreed, then B came in and S started acting all like 'oh we was just talking B its nothing' kind of way' S then told me i would be sleeping alone tonight but she said 'oh you can always sleep in B's room and snuggle up to her' she hugged me goodnight.the next morning S said that she had to get some things from the old house and that she'd call me once she's finished however when she came back she was extremely moody and was like 'oh i feel like an asshole because i feel like B has rejected you and i have to watch over you now becaue of ur panic attacks and i have all this stress in my life as i'm about to find a new job'it was at this point I thought..that i have got myself into a messy situation and nothing good will come of this and i will just end up getting hurt.. just ignore her, so i went out drinking on saturday night and came back to the house to sleepon the next day i hung out with B and we went drinking in the park it was at one point in the evening that S texted B saying 'wheres he at?' which may of been referring to me. so i get back to the house with B and i felt very uncomfortable as S was there i ignored her, she offered me some veggie soup but i declined..she went to bed and i settled down to sleep.in the morning it turns out that S was ill and B didnt have work, we sat out in the garden and talked for little while then me and S watched a movie together, afterward she said that she was ill and going for a nap, i then told her i'm going downtown, she then lent me a scarf because she said its cold and brought me my hat, as i left i went to give her a hug and she looked kind of surprised. i left and went to amuse myself...when i came back i settled down to sleep when i overheard S say to her roommate 'Did D (me) come back already' i went to sleep, however the next morning i went out and when i came back at the night S started talking to me and she was being very sweet and asking me all these questions and made me a cup of tea..however as of her off putting nature and hostilities in the past i was kind of nervous around her and clammed up, i told her i was leaving for canada and she then offered to give me some blankets for wherever i was going to next she then wished me goodnight and tucked me up in bedwhen i left for canada the next morning she offered to ride the bus towards downtown with me, all the time on the bus journey she was poking fun at me (in a playful way)what i want to know is..can anyone please interpret this girls behavior and what are her attentions as when i'm alone with her she's completely different but when we're not she's cold and distant and even hostile and she is coming to europe in june..would it be worth me following her up?
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reader, SillyA  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 Sounds to me like this girl is rather immauture and has lots of drama and baggage. I would keep it as a memory and move on, I'm sure you can connect with a much less complicated local girl. Good luck!
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