A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my girlfriend for about a 3 and a half years now and we've had sex many times. I view myself as a lesbian, for I am not attracted at all to men and strongly attracted to women, but I've never really gotten any pleasure from making love to her.I enjoy her making love to me (using her fingers) but not so much oral sex. And I downright refuse to perform orally, I just don't find it appealing at all.It's become more of a chore than anything else to make love to her, and since I'm not enjoying myself, she senses it. I get more aggravated than stimulated when she moans or cries out and it makes me just want to get it over with. I've never really been that big into being on the 'giver' side of sex for anyone, so I know it's not her fault.We've looked into buying sex toys and are saving up at this time. But I fear after spending over $120 on these toys, I will still be in the same position.Can anyone help me figure out how I can make sex enjoyable for both of us?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): Have you ever consider the possibility that this girl is not the right partner for you? Are you even attracted to her? You didn't mention anything about having feelings for her in your question. Just because you are a lesbian doesn't mean you are supposed to enjoy making love to EVERY woman out there.
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