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writes:Couples fight about money.From what I understand this is one of the main strains in a marriage. Do any married or otherwise long term couples on here have any advice on how they feel they have best managed this issue to the point where it doesn't affect their relationship?Is it simply about living beyond someone means? Is it about differing values as to where the money should be spent. Is it about sticking to some budget? I would really appreciate any insight.Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): Money: one of the top 3 for ruining marriages. To keep the peace in my marriage, he manages the money (even though his money management skills aren't very good)but he pays most of the bills...just not saving much. Sticking to a budget avoids arguments, and I just had to learn to 'let it go' when things seem unfair. I try to be thankful and look at the 'big picture' of all we Do have compared to others, and it's a comfortable living. I like Suzie Orman's advice, but she irritates my husband.:}
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (9 January 2009):
I have been with my fiance for 4 1/2 years and we have lived together for 1 1/2 years. To deal with money we each have our own and our own responsibilities. We always make sure that we have our bills paid and have food in the house (which we split the bills with him paying more because he is working and I go to school full time and only have financial aid). After that what he buys himself is his choice. If he wants a game or a beer as longs as everything else is paid its his choice to treat himself and vise versa.Having predetermined expenses and your own money is what keeps us from fighting. The only time we argue is when we both cant afford bills and then its just more fear of not being able to pay things but once it gets paid or there is a plan to pay it the stress and arguing ends.
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