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writes:My ex has recently asked me if i want go give our relationship another go and i wondered if anyone had any views on if it can work. He cheated on me while on a lads holiday so after he confessed i ended it but as we lived together he moved into the spare room till we got it all sorted. That was two years ago and im not saying we were best mates but we kept in touch. He hasnt had a proper girlfriend since and ive had a couple of relationships but they never came to anything. It was so out of the blue, he just came out with it one night this week. I thoughy he was drunk but he keeps asking if ive made up my mind yet. Can it work? I need a view point from other then those who know us. I do want to try but i dont know if its worth the friendship i built back up with him.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 December 2012):
 Do you still live with him? It is unclear from your post.
There's this standard reply around this website when it comes to these question... An ex is an ex for a reason. Unless those reasons have changed, then you should not enter a relationship with an ex again. So it all comes down to whether you think he will cheat again or not, I think. Can you trust him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2012): Only if you can fully forgive him for his cheating and not hold it over him.
I forgave my cheating boyfriend and its been 2 years now and our relationship is better than ever we have reconnected and I think his infidelity showed the problems in the relationship whilst I'm not condoning his actions i have grown from it.
You have to ask yourself can you make it work do you still care for him?
Can you trust him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2012): You sound skeptical and I think you have a lot of reason to be that way. I think building back a friendship was a brave and risky thing in light of all your past...and given the fact that you're asking strangers on the internet, I suppose you might have still have a soft spot for him.
If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't entertain the idea only because of the suspicion he was drunk when he asked.
But if you're feeling adventurous, I might entertain the friend status until you're ready. After cheating on you as a partner, he really has no right to demand any immediate answer or loyalty from you. Typically friends respect boundaries like that. And if he's a real friend, he should respect that wish.
Good luck.
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