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writes:I have a friend who Im interested in being more with him, and im pretty sure he likes me back, however Im not sure if it would be a good idea because he has this attitude/beleief that friends always come before girls, so 'bros before hoes' type of thing.I duno if its a good idea geting involved with a guy who would put his mates before me. I understand that its important to not neglect your friends and stuff when in a relationship, and if you do, you will be all alone if the relationship ends...but surely there must be some middle ground? In my past relationships my bfs have always put me before there friends and i see that as the right thing to do, and ive done the smae for them.what do you guys think? can a relationship with somoene who values there friends over there gf really work? if so how? and what would be the chances of the guy likely coming round and changing his mind - so puting his gf first instead? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): Ummm this can go either way. From my personal experience (when I was 21-25) in college and partying a lot, he may like you very much...but if that is his mentality, then you cant change it. Dont even try. He will break up with you. It will have to be on his terms and come naturally. You might end up getting hurt, not because he cheats or dislikes you, but because you feel second place. I used to be this way. Now, a few years later, I feel much different in my outlook. Its part because my 'friends' are in relationships, we are growing up, working, etc. Some guys start this mindset earlier than others. If you are easy going and enjoy his friends, this is less of a problem than you think. If you dont like his friends...beware...
best of luck...you may just want to give it a trial run. it may be a great fun relationship. if you are trying to tie him down...you are wasting your time.
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reader, Pinkbees09  +, writes (30 September 2007):
 Well I've never been in a realationship like this but if you really like him and he really likes you, he should make an exception. If not you guys will probably have to talk about it,
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