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writes:I've been best friends with this guy for 10 years, even dated for a few days almost a year ago (He broke up with me). Recently we've decided that we want to sleep together, making a friends with benefits, though he told me that he doesn't change (I asked him if our friendship was gonna get awkward). We still talk on a daily basis and hang out a good bit. But I'm curious, even though he says he doesn't change, is it possible for him to develop feelings since he did at one time have feelings for me?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 February 2014):
 I can tell you now that sleeping with him probably will not change what he feels about you... it's just easier to scratch that sexual itch with a known entity and one that you know will put out and you can keep stringing along
He will never feel about you the way you feel about him and you will end up hurting over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe had liked me for a good while before we got together, but there were a lot of issues with my family, his family, and his problems so that's why he broke it off. (He's also my brother's best friend) But even then it wasn't like he was trying to lure me into bed with him, not even during the entire time we've been friends. And by feelings I mean that he liked me. Sorry, should've mentioned that in the first post. Though I don't know if that would change your view lol. Thanks though!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (4 February 2014):
 I don't think if you dated for a few days there could be a break up because you couldn't be bfs gfs in that short amount of time. I don't believe he developed feelings for you because if he had he wouldn't have broken up only of few days' dating. If he said he had feelings for you it's only to ease you into going to bed with you. A FWB guy can get feelings but it's not the kind of feelings that would progress into a real relationship. I am no prude myself and had done FWBs before but for a 10 year on and off friendship I couldn't do it. Too much history.
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