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writes:boyfriend and i took a break, we broke up finally and its been 5 months i hadnt contacted him all thoguh iw anted to he wanted space bc i went crazy. anyway he hooked upw ith some girl and for 2 months has been contacting me we ifnally met our connection is undeniable, no questin about it he is miserable and loves me still, the thing is i understand the girl and him hooking up as i had my moments too but he said he needs more time to figure himself out, all though i should look at that with a positive light, it was the first time he ever opened up to me! he said to me nto to call him or talk to him everyday and we will talk whenever through text or whatever, for 5 months i thought he was figuring himself out, now i figure i need to step in and help him, so i thought to send him one kind of message, email , text, voicemail or missed call to let him know I am trying and am here and thinking of him. but idk if thats too much im afraid not tlakign to him everyday will make him think or forget me bc boys are silly at times and dont see it, we both are old and hes reachign the point in his life to marry or str8ten himself out I am alittle yougner so marriage isnt on my plate but if i get with him at all for us int he future i want some serious committment but he is afraid. my question is, by nto talking everday will it distance us?!...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): being strong asains has nothing to do with it.
He's an ex, he's been with others. Move on. Sorry, but you'd be better off in the long run!
The fact that you've gone looking for answers, shows you have doubts, and doubts means you're not happy.
Move on, and find a true love!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni DO AGREE, but, the thing is our cultural barriers were very strong. we both are strong asians, and the reasonw e took a break bc we were nto married ofr a relationship. the guilt and love if elt in his eyes trust me, i never have felt in the 4 yrs we were together.
i doagree not to go back to an ex, buti never considered him an ex. i truthfully havent moved on, i forced myself to meet others and id idnt like it at all. i didn do antyhign though but stilll........
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): Even 26 is old enough to be getting married!
Anyways. breaks don't work, he moved on, and so have you.
When there is a break and no kids, there is no point of trying to come back together, because if it was meant to be, there wouldn't have been a break in the first place. Because a level of trust has been lost. Simply, you'll both be thinking, well we broke up once, will we again? So in the end you will, because you'll want out before the other ends it.
Never go back to an ex, and never go back to an ex who has been in a different relationship in the mean time!
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