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writes:I'm 21 and I live (well just now) with 3 girls and a guy. We all go to the same university and knew each other from halls last year.This year has been stressful. I thought it was just moving not a house with new people that was the problem. One of the girls I have assumed has OCD due to her "habits" and I have felt like I have been living in her house not ours (the 5). She is a bit of a bully pointing out what I've done wrong or should change in terms of house work. She even puts me down a lot when she's drunk. The other 2 can be horrible at times also by making me look like an idiot. Based on conversations, the other 2 seem to think that men are stupid(they ae nice some of the time but their opionions of things make me cringe). The problem is that since they never seem to do anything wrong, or they think they've done nothing wrong in the last year, I always think its my fault and I'm wrong. The guy I live with just does as he's told from the others whilst I generally used to stand up for myself although the girls would usually gang up against if I had an issue about something with one of them.The major downfall came before christmas when they asked me to move out. I feel like I've done things wrong and they are the innocent party a they are the majority. SInce then I have noticed I have been too scared to ask any girls out, since I feel I'm probably too inferior to them and probably not good enough for them. As well as an unconcious feeling of I could be bullied again like the 3 girls in my house did.I'm moving out for next semester so I'm hoping things will improve as I won't seem them as often.
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reader, 25sweetnsingle  +, writes (23 May 2009):
I agree - you shouldn't put up with them treating you like that. With flatmates you have to compromise a bit but if they just aren't nice people - it can be really harsh.
You can often feel trapped as well because moving is such a hastle. Just look on the bright side of things - the sooner you get away from them, the sooner you can be youself. Learn from the experience, be a bit cautious but put it in the past and move on !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): They are bullies. You should just move out if you can. If not then just ignore them, try not to take what they say to heart. People like that aren't worth it. REMEMBER all women aren't like that. You get bullies in either gender
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