A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was forced to do two extra years of high school, I had to retake some of my final high school exams and I still did poorly. I entered a weak college but I flunked out and failed many classes, at the moment I'll be graduating in 2017 despite having begun my degree in 2010, I will be 26 in 2017. I'm short, black, never kissed a girl, a virgin, ugly, fat, have a small penis and i am failure. I can find no redeeming qualities about myself. I want to build up my confidence and be happy/content with myself despite my life. Please help.
View related questions:
confidence Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2014): [Edit]: "Parents are responsible for teaching children to love who you are in spite of your feeling that you should have be born in a different body."
[Correction]: Parents are responsible for teaching children to love who you are, in spite of your feeling that you should have been born in a different body.
Sorry!
A
reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2014): Give yourself some credit. You flunked-out on some courses; but you didn't quit or drop-out. I do believe you need professional-counseling; and maybe a physical and mental-health evaluation, to see if you have clinical depression.
You may also have other health issues that are robbing you of self-motivation, affecting your disposition/attitude, and concentration.
If you feel so badly about yourself, I'm sure school bullies and cruel teasing also added to your self-loathing for how genetics created you. A lot of people never get over the cruelty of younger school years; that, and the lack of affection, positive-reinforcement, and encouragement that good parents offer children in their formative-years.
Not to say your parents don't love you, just that they are the ones who should have instilled your pride in your race, culture, and ethnic origin. Parents are responsible for teaching children to love who you are in spite of your feeling that you should have be born in a different body. Well, sorry; but you are who you are. Continue to pursue your education. However long it takes, young man!
No one here can see you, there is no advice we can give you that will instantly solve your problem. We will offer you encouragement and comfort, but what you need is a talk with someone with a license to evaluate your mental and physical health.
If you are over-weight, it is difficult to determine the true size of your penis if there is a lot of fatty tissue in your groin area. A big belly will make whatever you have seem smaller, kiddo! Atrociously incompetent school systems deprive young people of competitive skills, and they overlook learning disabilities in children during a crucial time in their academic development. Passing them without really having adequate proficiency in math, science, and grammar. That may account for your difficulty in learning my young friend.
Weight-loss changes a lot of people; because it improves their health, gives them more mobility and stamina; and a better outlook on life. Time to diet and exercise! Change your eating habits. I'm sure you've heard of tutors? Those kindly brilliant nerds who will help you with math and science, or any other school subject you struggle with.
This site will offer you comfort, but your belief you have no redeeming qualities requires long-term counseling to determine if there are possible psychological or physiological issues that need to be diagnosed and treated.
Change what you can, seek help where you can't, and learn to like who you are no matter how you look.
You've got a lot of life ahead of you, and you're too young to give-up on yourself. You have so much to learn, experience, and to contribute to this world. Seek help, don't stop here!
...............................
A
female
reader, Brokenv  +, writes (23 December 2014):
WOW! I think you are being pretty hard on yourself. You need to look at things more positively. Start thinking like a winner!Your appearance is somewhat in your control. I suggest eating a healthier diet and attending a gym on a regular bases. If you can't afford a gym start walking to jogging. You are in control.I understand how tough it is for some people in school. But how do you study? Note taking? You can ask a peer and or a teaching assistance for guidance and or support. This is in your control.Don't worry about girls. They too will come. You need to focus on you and how you think of yourself. No female will want to be apart of a male who lacks self confidence. Again you are in control.Lastly speak with a mental health counsellor. They will give you guidance in how to change what is most important in your life. You are in control of your own happiness. You have a lot to offer this world.....stop selling yourself short! You got what it takes. Just grab it and run with it!
...............................
|
