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writes:I recently broke up with my boyfriend because he cheated, even after I took him back the first time. In total, the relationship lasted 6 weeks, so it was barely serious. I've met a new guy though, that I think I can have a stable and healthy relationship with...how long should I wait to go out with him? I don't want to have the reputation that I'm jumping around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Thank you for the replies and opinions. I guess I was just too worried about what others thought.For the record though, I haven't done anything sexual yet - just kissing. I know I'm young (15) and I'm waiting for the right person to do those things with (not that I look for guys just for that stuff). Thanks again.
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reader, Variety  +, writes (7 February 2008):
 He cheated on you. So it wasn't as if you got bored and moved onto a new guy. I think you are fine to start a relationship when you feel you are ready. x
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (7 February 2008):
If you think people will think that way then you'll always think like that even after a year of being single.Don't feel so guilty.If you've moved,waiting would be unfair to yourself.It's good that you've found someone serious.Be serious as well.Forget what others think.Maybe others think you are a slut for going out with a guy just 4 six weeks.
Good Luck
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (7 February 2008):
 Hi,
If you feel ready to start another relationship then that is up to you.
It sound's like you really like this guy so if he is that nice why wait around i'd be quick before someone else beats you to it!!
Try not to worry what other people think it's your choice not their's!
Good luck with the new guy hope he treats you right!!
Lu x
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (7 February 2008):
First of all it says you are between 13 and 15 so I would say you need to take the time to discover who you are before you can discover someone else. At 13 I thought that whatever I was feeling in my heart was what the other person also felt. I suggest just being friends with this person and finding things you can do together that does not involve sex. You are too young and your body is still growing and developing internally so you need to take the time to let nature develop your body before you do anything sexual with this person. Guys will respect you more when you are not putting out at such a young age. Because I did not put out at your age I was called frigid and bitch by guys and eventually I had a one night stand as my first when I was 16 because I was sick of the names I was called. Very soul destroying it was to have done something at 16. It set a precedent in my life well into my twenties of being used and abused and not valued as a person. You are young enjoy being a young girl without the hassle and complication that sex at your age would bring. Life is for living so don't get caught in the trap of putting out to win a guy's affection. You will only get his attention but not his affection. Be strong be true to yourself and concentrate on your schoolwork. This guy will not be in your life in another 5 or 10 years so it is not worth it.
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