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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Here's the thing.. For the last few month I dated this guy .. and I had very strong feelings for him... I don't usually fall so fast but he has this thing over me that I can't explain... anyway it was a complicated relationship from the beggining I mean we had issues since our first month as boyfriend and girlfriend and as time passed by we had even more issues .. he is a extremely difficult person and I am no prize either so we had a lot of problems... the thing is that inspite all of the crap we had amazing fun together too ... when we were good it was awesome.. I don't think i ever been so happy with someone before... and so sad at the same time... is not like we fought everyday but he has real issues letting people into his life and trusting them and it took long enough for him to open up to me... and then he would be happy one day and all cold and indifferent the other.. he was ok one day and then the next one he was in a bad mood and he would take it out on me... and then he'd apologized on and on saying how much he loved me ... I spent so much time trying to figure him out .. I wasted hours and efford trying to be who he needed and trying to make him happy, I've been so sad for so long and now he just comes and asks me for time .. is it fair ?? I can't help but thinking how stupid I am to fall for a guy like that ... anyway I told him that taking a break was stupid and that we should break up all together ... I know he didn't wanted time off, he wanted to break up but he is too much of a coward to say so .. so I did it for him ... anyway since we broke up (on monday) I've been feeling so sad .. like ... incredibly sad... I don't think I've ever felt like this before... anyway my question is... how do I stop being sad?? i know is stupid to ask but i really feel like an unbearable burden over me and i want to stop feeling like this ... I wanna stop feeling like crying every waking moment.. I used to be a really happy person .. even my friends noticed I changed. I don't want to be so down anymore so if anyone has some advice please ... tell me what can I do. (By the way I know I am better off without him but that doesn't really change the fact that I feel like this)
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (24 September 2011):
 You should allow yourself to feel whatever because that's the only way to grieve and to get over a person. Just feel and try not to analyze the problem. Something you can think about is that while you are sad right now, a year from now on you would be a different person.
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