A
male
age
41-50,
*cson
writes:Hello everyone,I have had a long distance relation for 2 years now and I really love her! Now that she decided to break up, I am really down and desperate.Unfortunately I commited begging to her to come back and I seemed really desperate and needy. However, then I decided to give her time and space so I cut all the contact with her! No sms, no call, no e-mai, no nothing. Morever, I sent her a handwirtten mail agreeing with break up and apologising for the actions I commited. She will probably receieve the letter in a few days. It has been a week I cut the contact and I am still missing her to death!! The reason she gave to break up was that ''she was not sure if she loved me anymore'' '' she was in depression or sth'', ''she needed space'' and alike.I really appreciate you guys to advice what to do!!! She has birthday on 29 November 2008 (next week), and I dont know what to do, to go there (russia)(I am in Turkey by the way), call her, send her a gift?What should I do??Please advice!!!Thank you all
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reader, mcson +, writes (21 November 2008):
mcson is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear simply_singular,
I appreciate your answer. It is really difficult not to miss her for a second but I still try to smile and go on with my life. I think you are right by saying her reasons were shallow but don't you think that she may be allright again? We were about to make serious decision when she broke up. Do you think she really needs time to decide whether she needs to be with me all her life? I mean is taht normal for a woman to take time to make sure on such decisions? or what you are syaing is that she would run to me if she really loved me?
Thank you so much
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reader, simply_singular  +, writes (20 November 2008):
 No, No and No! Unfortunately for you she ended it. If anything at all then send her a card very upbeat and happy and don't sign it "with love, love you" or anything like that! Not even thinking of you. Just your name. Her reasons were shallow and selfish on her part, if she was in love then it wouldn't just stop. Keep up with the no contact! Give yourself time and then try to find joy in little things, smile sometimes and begin to enjoy life again. Even if you truly loved her and I mean truly loved, you will come to terms with it, put it away as a cherished memory and go on with your life. Believe it or not someday you will be able to smile when you remember her.Good luck!
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