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writes:Hiya, I have trouble getting boyfriends. It's that Im always the friend, never the girlfriend. I've tried asking my friends whats wrong with me and they say I'm a fine atractive girl and it's their loss if they dont like me that way, but if that was true then why haven't they asked me on a date or something? (Not that I expect them to.) It's just I'm fed up of being the best friend. I feel it's my time to have someone. My friends say they really cant find fault with me but there must be, for me to have a problem right?Please help me. Thanks for reading lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2005): Anatasia is giving your wonderful and very wise advice, dear. I wholeheartedly agree with her. Take your time getting into the dating scene and don't allow this to drag you down and make you feel sad about it. It will happen but when it does...it will be someone you are truely best friends with.
Remember to just keep being yourself, hun. Don't change who you really are to make boys like you. Its will only prove to be a surefire way to lose your value & self esteem. In the meantime, be kind to yourself and keep doing funs things with your friends take your mind off boys, and wait for the one thats special to you.
Look at life as a wonderful adventure and don't give a hoot whether you are dating or not. Too many girls get caught up in that trap that they aren't "lovable or valuable" if they don't have a boyfriend. Hogwash! What they forget, in order to find love..they have to first love themselves. It's like a glow that works it's way from inside of a person and shows up on the outside. Just cherish the great and wonderful friends you do have right now. Keep smiling-stay happy, positive and just keep being you! (Hugs)
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reader, 81605slygurl +, writes (17 August 2005):
Well I don't know what's the problem with you because I dono't know you personally, but at least you have friends that are guys. I can't even get that far! Anyway, I'm not a professional advice giver, but all I can say is to keep trying and stop trying to be their "friend", I know that it's nice and all to be friends, but if you want them as more you have to actually pursue that type of think. ALso, show more skin or something, maybe that will work, but not too much because then they'll think you're slutty. So I guess the best thing to do would be to flirt with your mates. Take a lesson from some friends of yours that have boyfriends or someothing. Also, i heard, it's not that rosy all the time when you have a boyfriend. There's problems and sometimes you will fight. That's what I've been told, but you know I've never had a bf before so I wouldn't know if it was true, but I suspect it is.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (17 August 2005):
 you don't have any faults honey, it is just that maybe ...what they want is not what you are willing to give and maybe that is a good thing. I truly feel that friendship is the best foundation to have for any relationship. Maybe in the future one of your friends and you will hook up. Don't rush it...when you speed you crash honey. Take your time...relax and enjoy your life ...the right guy will come along.
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