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writes:*OP's own title*a while back i found out my boyfriend was screwing around on the computer with otehr girls , i confronted him we talked and worked it out blah blah blah but when i read some of the things that he wrote on the profiles he made it hurts , like one said "looking for : a woman for 1 on 1 sex .reading that killed me , like im i really that terrible that he has to turn to the internet to look for sex . we both lost our virginity to eachother and we have been together along time he just moved away about a month ago which makes me bringing any of this up really hard to deal with cause it like impossible to fight when im here and hes here , so what im asking is how do i deal witht he insecurites it gives me , ?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 April 2010):
 See no evil , hear no evil and speak no evil.
Pretend that you did not see it and live your life as though those things are inconsequential.
As long as he treats you right , you have to let go of those small things .If you mind about every small things, it will give you problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): The best way to deal with those insecurities is to dump him and find yourself somebody who DOESN'T screw around and is only all about you. Unless you have skin as tough as hide and somehow feel like you deserve this type of treatment and are ok with being cheated on, there is no other way of dealing with those insecurites should you decide to stay with him. If you take the dignified road and break up with him and move on, you will be hurt at first, you may still feel insecure for a little while after the break up and before you know it you will be happier, feel better, feel stronger and realise that you are so better off without him. I mean what's so great about the kid?? Does he make you happy?? NO. Does he make you feel good about yourself?? NO. Does he make you feel like the only woman in the world?? NO. So what's so great about him?? Sounds like nothing really. He makes you sad. He makes you insecure. You are questioning yourself and your self-worth...forget him. He's not a good match for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): the only thing you have to face is he's a cheater and that would make anyone untrusting and insecure especially since he's long distanced now.
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