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writes:I starring dating this guy and his penis is huge is feels good during but most times it just hurts. I have been with plenty of other men. Its just I can't seem to get use to it. So my question is will it not hurt me or will it hurt forever. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help i will give it all a try. I am short too. His penis is thick and very long. The more we have done it seems to get better now it only hurts for the first couple of minutes then feels great after the pain goes away.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 July 2014):
 It will not hurt forever, I hope. But it is impossible to say. What is it that hurts? I had one boyfriend once who has a very thick penis, but he wasn't that long. It was the girth that was painful, because it caused too much friction. I was recommended to use extra lubricant, and go slow. It worked. We had to find a certain position that helped, and he could penetrate me only from that position and no other. I found that missionary position worked best for me, but as we're all different you just got to try and see what's best for you. Like you said, once we got started it was good, so we would just roll over into new positions without him pulling out.
Go slow. Use extra lubricant.
And if you're using condoms I strongly advice you to switch to birth control pills instead, because condoms cause extra friction and th lubricant dries up.
If the problem is his length, not his girth (or both?) then you also need to go slow, and he can't push it all in. There will be some positions that will work, while others you can't do. I had one ex who had a specific bend to his penis, that made it impossible for us to have sex doggy style because it would be painful for me. Some positions just wont work. You have to experiment and find the position that works for you. If he's too long then doggy style is not a good position, and I would try spooning instead, for example, or you laying horizontally over him so that you create a + sign in bed. That limits how deep he can go.
You must talk to him about this though, the only way to make sex better for you is that you communicate well on what works and what doesn't work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2014): Hi! It used to hurt a lot with my boyfriend too, he could hardly get inside me. I recommend that you use a lot of lubricant, that worked for me, and try to start with you on top. I also heard that perineal massage, the massage women use to prepare themselves for giving birth works.
See this link for more info: http://www.bloomingbellys.com/bb-blog/prenatal-perineal-massage/
My case was slightly different because he was my first. But we have great height and frame differences - he is about 6'2" while I'm about 5'2". Hope this helps.
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