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female
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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend is a professional MMA fighter. We have been dating for 6 months now and we are so in love. But, recently we have been having a lot of problems. We fight all the time and we DO NOT have sex anymore. It's been about 2 months since we have been intimate. He has recently been training hard for a fight that he had and now has a fight coming up in May, so he is under a lot of pressure. I've done some research and a lot of website have told me that MMA fighters restrain from having sex before a fight, so i understand it, but I am a woman, and I have needs and our lack of intimacy is affecting our relationship. I don't know what to do. i've talked to him about it once, and he said he was embarrassed cause the fighting take a lot out of him so when we get time to be alone he is just too shot to do anything or "get it up". MMA is a lifestyle, and i will never be first in his life, which sucks but I love him and I am willing to make that sacrifice. He is moving to Florida for 7 months in a few weeks and we have no intentions on breaking up and we are going to make the long distance thing work. But, our lack of intimacy and our fighting is becoming an issue. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): There's days when I get out of the gym and lack the energy to lift a banana, let alone plow a lady :)...Youre being very patient and also being very understanding which is fairly amazing of you to do that given that you could easily go somewhere and just "get off". I sense you two will definitely need a compromise on this. Perhaps maybe not sex but what about other sub categories of intimacy? lol... or heck what about just kissing and touching... does it really need to be full on sex? have him use a toy on you... this is almost an opportunity for you guys to get creative and maybe spice up your sex life! Best on this.
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