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writes:My boyfriend used to have a friend with benefits. My boyfriend and I live together now. She broke it off with him. It's been about 5 years from the break up. The town is not large. So far they have kept their distance from each other.This woman occasionally takes a walk around town and will walk past our house. Sometimes she will see my boyfriend watering the trees out front after work, etc.My boyfriend is building a shed. I happened to be in the master bedroom by the window. She must have walked by and saw him. I saw her climb up the shed and talk to him. I gasped and went out loud to myself," Uh Oh", and "Oh No." I watched their body posture. She crossed her leg and leaned on a pole and my boyfriend did the same. It was a short conversation, just a few minutes. They must have talked about the shed because she gestured towards the street. She then left and I watched her walk away down the street.Like I say, the town is not large enough to get away from people, so she is a constant reminder of his past for me.He has lied to me about her saying they went together for a couple of months when a friend I have in town told me no, it was more like a year.Later I came out to check on my boyfriend because it was hot out. He never said a word to me about her.Should I have surprised them and walked out why they were chatting or ask him how their "chat" went or should I let this go?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 August 2013):
 Sounds to me like they parted amicably and are behaving like adults.
what would you have wanted him to do?
yes i guess he should have mentioned she stopped by but I wonder if your prior reactions to the mention of her stopped him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2013): I am not a trusting individual by nature. Why "now" after all these years is this woman going out of her way to talk to your boyfriend is my question?Since she was bold enough to go into your "turf", your property, I would have taken a glass of water out to him as they were "chatting" and surprised them both. Actually, that was very bold of her, since she took the risk of you being in the house.I would casually, at lunch or dinner, ask your boyfriend how his chat went on the shed with this woman and see his reaction. Let him know that you know. He is a guy so he didn't want any emotional reaction from you so that is why he was silent about the matter is my guess.I don't trust people, especially ones that were intimate with each other. You never know what schemes or conniving they have going on their heads no matter how innocent it may appear.
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reader, Lady_V  +, writes (27 August 2013):
It's most likely a harmless conversation, I wouldn't read too much into it, however saying that I know you would still be wary of the situation, don't go interrogating him and asking a load of questions as this would only make him think that you don't trust him. Have a bit of faith and remember that he chose you! Personally, I would keep an ear and eye out but I wouldn't let one conversation destroy my trust for the guy.
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