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writes:I'm not good with asking advice. So I'm sorry if I give you too many irrelevant details. Here I go My boyfriend, who I've been with for 10 months now, has one of his best friends (who is a girl) flirting with him. And I love him, He loves me. No doubt about it. I trust him. It's HER I don't trust. They always have these little secrets, and inside jokes, and things they aren't telling me going on between them. And I don't like it. She is manipulative. Very. And apperently she's been showing him naked pictures of her. And he has been telling her to back off and to stop. But she hasn't. But she is his best friend, so if I say something he gets mad. We've talked about it. Trust me. He doesn't like her. But she thinks otherwise. And I can't talk to her because she doesn't listen. I've tried already to talk to her. But she started flirting more. Am I overreacting? Help!
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reader, Juicy Lu  +, writes (1 June 2012):
 I Suggest Your Boyfriend Needs To Tell Her That He Aint Interested An if she continues to do it after that then he should end the friendship with her. If I was inyour situation then I would sit them both down and have it out with both of them .. Ask her the reasons why she keeps flirting with your man an listen as your boyfriend tells her he isn't interested and if this continues then your boyfriend and his female (friend) should end the friendship because eventually she will either put really bad strains on your relationship or break use up . One or the other. Hope This Helps.
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (1 June 2012):
 can I just fly over there and beat her up? Seriously, I can't stand girls like her, they drive me cuckoo.I know this isn't entirely boyfie's fault but I think that the longer you stay in this relationship the more you will get hurt.This is bound to end badly, and everyone in the situation is just too young to realise how badly. I know you love him. I also know that I loved someone once, with the love of a teenaged girl (which I think is the most underrated, most pure, most passionate kind of love)I know that my love was taken for granted time and time again, and that after having tried to give it to only two teenaged / young adult guys.... And having it broken time and time gain I am now an adult woman, who is having a very difficullt time letting go in love.... Trusting, giving my heart, enjoying life. I also know that I am merely a statistic.So here's my advice, one romantic heart to another: Be weary of how much of your heart you give in relationships hence forth. I know it sounds so stale but you are reaching that age where, I don't know what it is, but some where between age 14 and 24, guys, ALL guys, even the nice guys, heck ESPECIALLY the nice guys .... Just become jerks.In this case he is being a jerk by not protecting your feelings, but there you have it. He is allowing this girl to disrespect your relationship. And she is clearly not respectful enough of him to respect his girlfriend, ie: not such a good friend.Yeah, I think you will be better off without both of them in your life, because it sounds like, if you stand up for yourself everyone acts like you are wrong. Yet, you and I both know that you deserve better.Thing is, it doesn't sound like it is going to stop.... And if he gives into temptation, (yes I am talking about making out, or worse, with her...) you will be devastated.Platonic friends don't send naked pics of themselves. And I know you don't have a problem with his having female friends, but there is a certain line that should not be crossed. Tell him that. Think clearly of which things you will and won't tolerate and give him an ultimatum, its the only thing that works with guys some times... Either you stand up for me, and our relationship, or I am through.With his loyalty to miss Horny Porny however, please be prepared for the worst answer. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2012): You say you trust him but you don't sound very happy with the situation. I don't think she should be showing him naked pics of herself but that's not all down to her. He could tell her not to show the pics, or to back off or whatever.
You need to decide what you will and what you won't accept and then talk to your boyfriend about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2012): Are you sure he is not encouraging it? He says he does not like her to your face.. but it takes two to tango.
You need to talk to your bf and set up some clear boundaries. I understand that he is allowed to have girl friends but not ones who do this - you need to tell him how you feel. You need to tell him you want it to STOP.
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