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writes: I’m 15 and my boyfriend if 16 we’ve been together for 9 months now , he’s approaching his exams (GCSEs ) and is getting very stressed . Recently he said that it’s best if we break up as he feels as though He’s not giving me enough attention and that I’m not happy . However I’m oerfectly happy , he said he thought it might be better that we have a break whilst he does his exams , but I know that if we do this then we won’t get back together because I know I’ll get over him, I love him a lot and so does he but he seems to think the fact that he isn’t seeing me and texting me as much that I’m unhappy, I’ve told him if I’m unhappy in the relationship I would tell him because we have a very trusting relationship . What do I do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2018): [EDIT]:
"because he doesn't have time for you right-now."
"You're not alright, and he can't concentrate; because he senses you're wanting more of his time."
He's also worried you might want to see other boys; because you're tired of waiting. You may as well be free to do that; it would take a load off his mind.
Maybe he's just tired of having a relationship; and just wants to focus on school now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2018): He's right. You are distracting him. He worries about you and he needs to focus on his exams. You should be more focused on your own studies and not holding-on to make him feel guilty; because he doesn't have time for you right not.
You're not being honest. You're not alright, and he can concentrate because he senses you're wanting more of his time.
Schoolwork and a relationship is just too much for him all at the same time. Please understand.
It's time to breakup; because he can't handle it all right-now. If he doesn't do well on his exams, his parents will freak! Let him focus on school. That's what he should be doing at his age anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2018): Hi there,
That happened to me too, many years ago. He told me over the phone one night. I was a bit surprised that anyone could enjoy a book more than going out for fun, but none the less, I accepted his gentle let down, wiped my tear and went and found a new boyfriend a few weeks later.
Just try and let go gracefully and remember you have a great life adventure ahead of you and you have to be free sometimes to find where it takes you, maybe you want to study at some point and go to university meeting new friends and having lots of fun.
Keep smiling
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 March 2018):
Break up.
He is looking to end the relationship REGARDLESS. The whole, for exams, because you aren't happy etc. etc. is him grasping at excuses to end it.
I think he is trying to end the relationship and NOT hurt you too much in the process.
Needing a "break" in the relationship after "only" 9 months kind of show that he really DOES want the break up. He might just not WANT a relationship right now.
I wouldn't go for the "break" think but do the break up instead.
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