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writes: Me and my boyfriend have been working to spice things up in the bedroom. He seems to really like the idea of role play. I tried it once with him, dressing up like a school girl. We talked about it more since then but now he's hinted around a couple times that he wants me to pretend I'm people we know or as particular females like celebrities and people we see around town. I feel kinda upset about this for obvious reasons. Does this mean he wants to sleep with my friends or his in laws? Like he'd prefer them over me?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2017): First off, I don't ever fantasize about any other man in the bedroom, celebrity or real life persons. My boyfriend is my fantasy.
For him to ask you to role play is perfectly fine. I love it too. You should have fun in the bedroom. But, I do draw the line at people you see in your everyday life. It is too close to reality for fantasy and it would bother me too. You would always worry he would be lusting after somebody who would be attainable as opposed to somebody he will never meet in his lifetime, such as celebrities.
To be honest, I am not into the role play using people. I prefer role play creating a situation. Like dressing up as a cop and arresting him. Pretending you are his student at an all girl's school and he keeps you for detention. Or he is your dad's best friend and he's sleeping over. You go into his room in the middle of the night and seduce him. Or one of my faves is pretend your computer is not working and you have called a technician to come to your home to fix it. Let him pretend to look at your computer, start sexual talk and flirting and graduate to straddling him in his chair and all kinds of fun things! Use your imagination!! There are lots of these types of scenarios that work rather than using people. The people thing is lame.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (29 June 2017):
 Celebrities? Sure! Role play is fine, nothing wrong with that, but I'm with you in the fact that dressing up as people you know in your actual social circle (like your sister, or your mom, or your boss) is cringe-worthy.
Like all other proposed sexual activity, you have the right to say no, you're not comfortable. He must have a role-play fetish, but you can set boundaries, and you SHOULD do so!
I won't even touch the issue of WHICH celebrities to impersonate. If he does Justin Bieber or Kim Jong-Un, he should be punched in the face, same with any Kardashian.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 June 2017):
 Ask him. Ask him why these people. And don't take an: "uh it might be fun" for an answer.
I would be honest with him and tell him that is a no-go to pretend to be people you know that is just creepy and I would upfront about it. Doing the "maid" or the "imaginary cable man" that is FINe but to pretend to be someone you both know? WTF?
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