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writes:suspect partner is cheating he says hes not put all the signs are there i am older than him and we have lived together for 12 yrs. then he moved to his own place and i have my own place but we were still seeing each other as a couple til last year when everything about him starting changing. so now he tells me he wants me as a lover, just does not want all the head aches! how can i be a lover if he has someone else? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): Seems like your relationship has gone backwards and you are now a booty call and not his girlfriend. If you don't want casual hook ups with your former boyfriend then don't do it and if you do, use protection. I don't know what your goals are or how old you are but if you are wanting marriage in your future then I would move on.
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reader, macdubh712 +, writes (14 April 2011):
Well, perhaps he said this so you would leave. This way, he could justify to himself that it doesn't matter what he is doing because you left him? You see? I am not saying this is right because it's not. He should just tell you that he cannot be what you need anymore and move on. He's a player. Plain and simple. If you are looking for something serious then he's not it so I suggest letting him go. I would also take some time for myself before I got into another relationship; you can learn a lot about yourself in the time it takes to decompress from a relationship. Good luck.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 What signs have you noticed? You haven't given a lot of detail for us to answer this question properly. How much younger is he? How old are you?
You lived together for 12years and then he moved out. Why? You were a couple last year, but now your not. Why, what happened? What are you now if your not a couple?
He wants you as a lover.. How do you know he has someone else? Is he offering to be a fuck-buddy, someone he only has sex with? Why would he offer that?
Do you spend money on him? Does he spend money on you?
Your post is too short for any sensible answer to be given. Please update with more details.
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