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writes:What does it mean when a guys he needs a break and says we may get back together, but we may not? We had been dating for 14 months and were suppose to be getting married this summer. We broke up about three weeks ago. He had said I was the one for him and I was stuck with him. Things didn't start to get weird till he started getting depressed. He said he was depressed and that it didn't have anything to do with me and that he needed time and space to get his head straight. I would wait for him till the end of time because I love him and he is the one for me and I know it. Has anyone heard this? Did you get back together in time? What can I do? I don't think pretending like I don't care is going to work that would just make him feel worse. What do you all think? I need advice.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 October 2010):
It means that he's ether wanting to deal with his depression and have time alone, or it means that he wants to play the field. Realistically, I think if you sit around waiting, you'll end up waiting to the grave. He won't come back, and it's unfair of him to have put you in this position. When people make big life changes, often the people in their lives are expendable. I don't think he will come back, and I think you should move on. If you don't, then you'll be sat there alone missing out on guys who are interested, marriage, children etc.
Accept that he has gone, and move on.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (23 October 2010):
 Whether he really is depressed or just wants to play the field before making a big commitment, it's not fair of him to expect you to wait indefinitely while he makes up his mind. Treat this as a break up, date other people in the meantime.
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