A
female
age
36-40,
*irly123
writes:When my boyfriend is stressed, he turns to alcohol and cigarettes, weed and the like. He has been like this ever since he was young. I don't like it. I hate it actually, because in a way, it seems like he just wants to hide it and make it numb, whatever he is feeling. It actually really upsets me. I don't know why. Is there anything I can do to help this, or prevent this? It just seems like he thinks that this is the only way of dealing with things. If he is upset, he needs a beer. If he is angry, he needs beer and cigarettes.... i dont know what to do, but i dont want to upset him more by telling him that it's not right.Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): You either accept him the way he is, or recognize that this drug use of illegal substances is a deal breaker for you and walk away.
It would be for me.
A
male
reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 October 2009):
The thing is, do you want to be in a relationship with a guy who can't face his problems? Think about that carefully. As for your question, there is nothing you can do. Only he can face his own problems, only he can stop himself from acting this way. Don't let yourself be dragged into this. You can't fix it for him. He has to want to fix it for himself.
...............................
|
