Boyfriend talks badly to me, won't see me, why am I putting up with him?

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

i been with boyfriend for 4 months he used to be really sweet, texts saying i love you and on the phone saying how am part of him and he wants our relationship to grow stronger. recently all that stopped, his become distant and change in his voice has changed. couple days ago i rang him and must ignored call cause when i text him saying i really need to talk to him he phoned right back. i asked him if everything ok between us and he said yes and then he said he was busy he call later but he never. next day i text him saying is everything ok be ween us he said yes. i text him back saying ok cause i really want to this to work out Between us he never replied. i called him few days ago he was driving so i was speaking to his friend and their was misunderstanding i misheard what he said, i just said why did you say that, my boyfriend took phone and starting saying saying am hearing voices it had **** all to do with you, then he said delete my number you really hurt me the hung up, i text him saying i cant believe you. he sent series texts saying you know what my expectations are for my wifey and you should dress wearing longer skirts and don't be rude or cheeky. next day he phoned and said he shouldn't boss me about you about wear what you want to, but then he said i should dress kinky if i love him. is there any point in bothering with this man when i see him he sees me for couple hours in hotel have sex when i say is this just some casual relationship he says no cause i chill with you after wards and its not sex it is making love. and week ago he he overheard my brother say how come you always call him which isn't true and he overheard this and said he break my brother jaw the he said he was busy and call later. i text he after saying why did you say that he phone my back swearing at me and what was i on about, i said its because you said you break my brother jaw and he said well if someone going to chat rubbish about me. he said girls only messed him about in past and only wanted him for his money but five always said i want to be with him for him not his money. his Pakistani born raised in UK but is cultural difference or is he just not very nice person. , couple nights ago on phone he said am slow in head all round in terms of being streetwise and am not updated when i said to justify his reason for that remark he couldn't justify his reason then when i got upset he said why you being like that you always go OTT and moaning. he hardly rings or texts and when say something he sees that as form moaning. he also said in past relationships with girls if he doesn't like something he tell them. he never takes me anywhere on less its hotel for couple hours and hardly see him. once at most. he also said their something different about you i said in what way, he could justify his reason then said its alright. is this man just after sex and nasty piece work who plays victim after making nasty remarks. his 25 say he wants find someone to settle down with but he says really horrible things sometimes then makes out like am being extra when say why being like that

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