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writes: My BF of 8 months used on-line dating service before he met me. He told me that he is not active anymore. Last week he even told me the name of the websites and his screen name. I went to one of the websites and found his profile. I was stunned to find that he was listed as "active within 24 hours". I went back and checked it again in a couple of days and he was still listed as active within 24 hours. He said before that he likes to browse these sites because some of the profiles are funny. I have not confronted him yet but I am sure he would use the same explanation. Should I believe him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): My boyfriend of 10 months is doin exactly the same, he puts his status as "attached" but after saucy chat or email.. I blame myself because im not very confident when it comes to sex!! He swears he'll never cheat on me .. im sorry but this is cheating on me in my eyes! Not to mention my best mate that he has been flirtin with online!!! .. I feel sick! :(
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (5 June 2006):
 Ah, maybe he WAS telling the truth. If he has erased his profile and doesn't visit them any more without you asking then chances are he does care what you think.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all very much for your answers. Each one of each has raised excellent point. I talked to my BF about it and asked him how would he feel if I had done the same thing. He said that he did not realize that I would be hurt by his action. He canceled all subscriptions and erased his profile from those websites voluntarily. I did not ask him to do it. Nevertheless, I can not help but feel that I can not trust him that much anymore.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (3 June 2006):
Pull this guy up and tell him he is a liar. He can browse these sites without having his profile listed. I can tell you now and absolutely catagorically he is not telling you the whole truth. Why? Because he wouldn't be looking if he was truely happy and comitted to you. He is making a fool of you and you need to tell him it stops or he is gone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2006): Ask him if he would mind you signing up to a dating website and looking at the profiles.
By the way - your kind of question comes up a lot on this website. I think it is very, very common for partners (usually men) to be signed up to dating websites whilst in a relationship. Some seem to be harmless, others don't.
Let your boyfriend know how you feel, and ask him how he would feel if the situation is reversed and hopefully you can both resolve the problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2006): He may be lying..you never know.The problem is this ,if you browse these sites even because they are funny or whatever,you are probable going to see someone who looks good and then the temptation to send a message is going to be there. It is very difficult to see an attractive person on a site looking for a guy and not repond..be careful of him if he is on these date sites
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reader, Ifonlyangel +, writes (3 June 2006):
What has he done wrong? LOOKED at some dating profiles, maybe he is being honest with you and maybe he does only read them for a laugh because i know myself i have read a few and yeah some are very funny, you need to trust your guy abit more, has he ever given you the impression that he wants someone else?
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