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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. We met online, and didn't meet in person until 11 months prior internet meeting. During those 11 months, I wasn't faithful completely, I talked to other men online. I was a virgin, and hadn't had sex with anyone before him when we met, but I still talked to those people, and I think it's ruining our relationship. Once I met him in person, I gained full trust, and I realized exactly what I had and how much I really truly loved him. Now I'm trying to be as good as I can be, and I'm being totally honest about everything, but I'm thinking maybe it's too late. I need help, I don't know what to do, and even though I've stopped doing everything now, he still thinks I am, and he can't trust me. I deleted my email accounts, social networking pages, and stopped talking to all but one friend for him, and I just don't know what to do. I'm happy with myself now, I feel like a better person, but how can I truly prove it to him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): Are you married to this man: no. Are you wearing the 1 carat diamond engagement ring he purchased for you? Probably no. What are his plans for next 5 years and the next 10 years? What has this jealous loser got to offer? He's petty and carping. He will not get better, he will get worse. Don't settle for what you can find by chance, think about what you really want and where you want to reach in life. What other studies and savings do you need to reach those goals? This man will hold you back. He will not want you to achieve anything he does not decide is Approved in advance by him. Just thinking about what you have related about him gives me the shivers. You talked to this man on line for 11 months. Then you finally met. This man does not OWN you. Of course you could still talk to others on line. Then you agreed to meet. Presumably to see how well you got on, in person, which can be a whole lot different to interacting online. And now this control freak, distrustful as he is, is proving it's not working out.
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