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writes:My boyfriend has a well paid job and I know he has money, but he is too stingy. We had a small argument over money issue and he told me, if he want sex, he will just make a call and he will get it and that he needs his privacy that's why he don't want me to visit him all the time. It hurt me a lot. But today I found out that he still communicate with his ex girlfriend. Is he cheating on me? Am confused, please help me out
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reader, Elorm777 +, writes (26 August 2019):
Elorm777 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much uncle. I appreciate your advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2019): Your response is very typical of many women who come to DC with a story of abuse or disrespect from husbands or boyfriends. Somehow, there is a miraculous change after receiving our advice.
The truth is, he's no different from what you first described him to be in your original post. You've just decided to accept him as he is; and let him have his way.
Like so many other women, you're so afraid he'll return to his ex; you'll put-up with anything from him. Oh, but as you get more experienced; you'll know better.
Let's see if "giving him more space" solves your problem. How about the ex he continues to contact; and the fact he'd pay for sex? I would never do that to the person I love; and I would never say such things. Least of all, they would dare talk to me like that. People who love YOU don't make you compete with their exes! They respect you, and prove their loyalty and faithfulness through their actions.
Best wishes, my dear! He's nothing but a boyfriend; but you've much to learn. You're still young, and have many years ahead of you. God bless you!
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reader, Elorm777 +, writes (23 August 2019):
Elorm777 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your advice. I started giving him space and now the tables are turning around. He is now calling me frequently and inviting me to their family house which he never did. I can see some kind of respect now than before. But I still wants to give him much more space.
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reader, Elorm777 +, writes (10 August 2019):
Elorm777 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your help. I really appreciate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2019): Seems being told by your committed-boyfriend that he'd pay for sex would give you cause to dump him.
I guess it would depend on your values and what you're willing to put-up with, whether or not you'll do that. That fact he earns a good salary probably makes you feel he's a good-catch, and he might ask you to marry him someday. What kind of a husband would he be, if he behaves like you described?
If he talks to you in such a way and tells you what he can do out of spite towards you ought tell you he's not a good-catch!!!
Privacy is not the issue! Cheating is the least of your worries!
If he stays in touch with his ex and threatens to pay for sex; do you think he loves you? Do you think he respects you? He's stingy and nasty to you.
Are you afraid to let him go because he'll just run back to his ex?
Keep clinging to him and see just how bad he can get. What can we tell you that you don't already know?
Is he cheating? He can walk all over you and disrespect you, but cheating matters? Then Yes! He's cheating you out of respect. He's cheating you out of what you deserve from a man. He's cheating you out of your youth and well-being as a woman! He's showing you he can do with or without you.
Now what?
Seems the more of a dick a guy is, the more the woman wants him!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (9 August 2019):
 Does it matter if he is cheating or not? You are not happy in this relationship. Why are you still hanging in there despite everything which makes you unhappy?
You boyfriend is pushing you away. He disrespects you. He is mean with his money. Sounds a catch! Not.
Throw this one back for someone else and find yourself a man who treats you as you deserve. You KNOW you deserve better.
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