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age
36-40,
*ammye17
writes:I an an issue. I've been with my bf for 6 months the first 4 moths were great. I fell for him and he admitted falling for me. I only saw him weekends nad ocassional sleep overs. but the last 2 monhths he started actind diff. Distant, cold and unaffectionate. He claimed feeling depressed and he told me he always suffered from it. Well i hacked into his email and i saw he had signed up to dating website where he exchanged #'s and he just sounded like someone i didnt know. i confronted him by showing up to his house we got into an argument and he said that was a joke hes co worker played with him he sweared he would not do that. well i didnt tell him how i found out but kept it like that. He still continues to act distant and he tells me he needs "space" that hes going thru alot and hes upset for me just showing up to his house. I see the red flags but i have hope, should i have hope or should i move on. i have suggested theraphy and counseling but he refuses to seek help
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 September 2010):
 Well you sound like a smart girl, I'm sure you know the answer to this problem..When one is depressed they lose interest in activities they once enjoy, trouble focusing, don't get out of the house much, get social anxiety, have suicidal thoughts, changes in sleeping habits, sometimes insomnia, or sleeping too much. Is there anything in his life you could think that could make him depressed? Often it's triggered due to problems in the home life, maybe a divorce, trouble in past relationships, work, and not being where you want to be in life etc. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves...It sounds like he's using it as an excuse though, if he's depressed then why is he going on dating sites giving out his number to random girls when he has you? Depressed people often have trouble socializing and being around others..If he needs space then why is he talking with other girls? Sorry dear doesn't add up. Too many red flags, you know it as well as I do. It's only been 6 months, it's still early to opt out of this relationship. If he really he depressed, which I doubt, then you need to break up with him and give him space to work on himself. However, I think he's going to be working on finding a new girlfriend instead, he's already on that track.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2010): Move on. You're boyfriend is playing you and is a dick.
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