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writes:HiMy bf of 1 year told me today that i am kind of fixated on him, so he needs to take a break and stop talking to me for about a month and see how it goes.I really do love him a lot. I cant bear the thought of not talking to him for a month. He is not picking up the call now. Is this a break up? Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): Sorry this sounds like utter crap to me. Unless you were truly stalking him and pestering him every second of the day.when you say 'fixated' how 'fixated'? If two people are in love then they want to sped time with each other. if he truly loves you surely he would not want to take a break. Take a break to me means break up. Sorry it sounds harsh - but i have had two relationships break up due to the guy wanting to 'take a break' and have heard many stories on here that after the break the girl just never hears anything from them again. Of course I hope this is not the case for you but I didn't want to tell you what you wanted to hear because that is most likely not being truthful and realistic.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 February 2011):
 Ok first off you really need to stop calling him pet because if you keep doing this then you are only going to drive him further away. What he meant was that you are showing him two much attention and he needs space to breathe. Therefore if you want things to hopefully work after the month then you cannot contact him again for the next month. Let him contact you. Sweetie i know this is really hard but he needs space right now and if you text or call him you are only going to drive him away further. It doesnt mean he has ended things he just needs a break to think things through so dont contact him and get on the phone to your friends for support. Keep yourself busy and hopefully in a few weeks he will get in contact with you. Sorry i dont have better news for you. Just keep strong and dont call him. Goodluck pet.
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reader, friend for life  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 hello sweetheart,
ive been through this myself,so let me tell you what i wish somebody had told me,stop calling him or making any contact with him at all from know,i know its hard darling but the more you contact him te further he wil run,hes said he wants a breack,so its not over yet,i suggest you spend some quality time ith family or friends,goout and have some fun while you have the chance.maybe a holiday,but dont contact him,as frustrating as it is if you dont back off he wll finish it,trust me as soon as you star getting on with life without him,he will probably come running back,i feel your pain over this and i wish you all the best.even if he does finish it you will be fine,you cant see it yet but you,times a great healer.
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