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writes: please help i am a 16 year old school girl in the ukso i am in a relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years who is 4 years older that i am.any ways my parents have known about us since the startbut for my 16 th birthday he told me he wanted to do something special .i was quite worried at what this suprise was .-no it wasn't sexso on the night of my 16th birthday i went out wiht my friends and my boyfriend and his friends we are all really closeand the night after my 16th birthday which was a saturdayand he took me to this really nice restaurant it was so romantic.And then out of the blue as we was getting the bill he got down on one knee and proposed to me ..any ways my question for you is at what age would you get married?what age do you think is the right age to get married?after how long in a relationship should you consider marriage?at what age would you consider children?and after how long in a relationship would you consider to have children? Reply to this Question
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reader, OlSarge  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 You are so young and have so much life in front of you so why rush it? I've seen so many young people get married right out of high school and then get divorced a few years later (my wife's first marriage, my brother, my ex-sister-in-law's sister, and the list goes on and on). One question for you is, are you college bound after you get out of high school? If you are, college is hard enough (and is a time to enjoy yourself before entering the real world) without having to deal with a husband and possibly children. There really is no rush even if you wait until you are 22-25 that is still very young.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (28 November 2010):
Don't do it. If you think you might want to do it, you should move in with him. Then you'll see how strong your relationship really is, when you're dealing with his dirty socks on your bed and he's dealing with clumps of your hair in his shower. I would say anyone who gets married without living with their lover for a year is moving too fast, and anyone who gets married before 20 is doing it too soon.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (28 November 2010):
 If you have to ask those questions then you're not ready for marriage. Everyone is different. You don't even know if this is the guy you want or are going to be with for the rest of your life.The age I recommend is when you're completely finished with school and have an established a career. You haven't even gotten started in uni yet. Also, here in America we have laws that prohibit you from marrying under the age of 18 unless your parents/legal guardian approve with their signature in the court of law. I'm sure Britain has similar laws. Have you told your parents, why don't you share the news and ask their opinion? It would be sensible of you to wait until you are older and more mature. Marriage is a BIG commitment and an adult decision. You need to politely decline his proposal, tell him it's very flattering but you are both much too young and need to wait later on down the road.
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