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writes:My boyfriend of 7 months is not that into sex anymore. He says that he still wants to be with me but is just not that into sex at the moment. Its not a huge deal but I am concerned. I don't want to push the subject too much but need some feedback. I have breast cancer and he has been with me the whole time. We had sex all the time during my chemo and radiation and now that I am feeling healthy our sex life is slowing down. He is 38 and now when we do have sex its amazing but we can go 2 weeks without. He says he hates turning me down but he is just not that into sex. He says its not me that its just not big on his priority list. We see each other 3 or 4 times a week and still snuggle and kiss all the time and are constantly holding hands. Do guys just have "dry" spells too? Our relationship is strong because of all the hard stuff we have had to deal with so quickly in the beginning of our relationship and we are actually talking about moving in together. He is an awesome boyfriend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): It happened to me and my ex gf, she had cancer as well.
All I can say is that don't pressure him into the sex thing for a little bit and wait for it to pick up. Don't get too comfortable (IE looking like u just woke up all the time). Put on some make up, look sexy, feel sexy, be healthy, do other things and it will attract him again. He seeems to still care about you and want to love you. Good luck!
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (15 March 2011):
 You guys have been through a lot and he has stuck by you through it all in everyway that matters... Please give him break with the sex. It isn't you, and yes guys can go thru dry spells too from time to time.
Try not to worry about it unless he stops wanting it completely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2011): ok so you have only been with this guy for 7 months and he has had to put on a brave face to help you get though chemo and radiation therapy. I know that you have been though a lot in the last few months with cancer but people forget about how loved ones feel too. To be honest this guy is a keeper most guys would run a mile at any signs of ill health but this one has been there every step of the way I applaud him. Most men in good relationships relax a little on sex I would start worrying if there was no kisses and cuddles on top of the no sex. Have a heart to heart with him.
Good luck getting the all clear.
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reader, Justtryingtohelp  +, writes (15 March 2011):
 Men do have dry spells too.
Now I personally have no idea how he may feel but maybe something is underlying about this, that he doesn't want to say.
Could be erectile issues, or maybe he's worried about having sex with you, due to your having breast cancer, and never thought about it till recently.
I would consider sitting down with him, and asking him to hear you out as you ask questions, explaining that you're not trying to push him, you just sense something has changed.
Good luck.
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reader, pool sea addict  +, writes (15 March 2011):
Stop askin him about it, don't even remind him abt it... If my gal frnd behaved in such a way, I wud bkam suspecious n get scared of losin her, hence, I wud try by all minz 2 satisfy her both emotionaly n sexually ... Røger dat
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