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writes:My long term boyfriend of 5 years completely destroyed me tonight. He and I have been having some problems the last couple weeks but tonight he decided to end it. He confessed to having been cheating on me for a month and ultimately was going to leave me for her. He gave me every excuse and tried to blame me for the cheating which really hurt. This is the man I do everything for and has told me all this time that he's been happy but now I know he's not been happy for months. He's been leading me on for quite some time. I trusted him. How will I ever trust again? I really loved him and now I know he doesn't feel the same. I feel like I was just lead on until he found better. I was completely loyal and from what I thought we had a great relationship. Just 4 days ago he set up a romantic date and was telling me he loved me. He would not tell me if he was still in love with me... Actually there's a lot of answers he would not give me. Instead he got frustrated. How can someone do this to the person who loves them? How can you just drop someone of 5 years for someone else like they're nothing? Most importantly, how can I cope? I'm not dealing with this well. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 January 2016):
 Its always difficult for a woman to accept that he has left for another woman. You are better than this. It was his fault he cheated not yours and I think deep down you know that. He is a coward for what he done to you and I hope Karma gets him back in the future.
I no you must feel like your heart has been ripped out that your whole life has just falling apart, and sweetie there is no quick fix for this. It is going to hurt and it is going to take time to heal.
You have to greave for that relationship as it was a big chunk of your life. Surround yourself with family and friends who will support you, don't be afraid to open up and allow them to be a shoulder to cry on. After this stage is done, you may start to realize that it is his loss not yours, and you are better off without him. You will soon start to feel that not all men are the same as him and if you ever meet someone you will learn to trust them with time. But for the moment just give yourself some time to heal.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 January 2016):
 It's usually crushing for a couple to break up. ONE is usually more affected than the other.... in this case, it's YOU..... AND he is less affected because he has already moved on.....
Chalk this up to a relationship having run its course.... and get on with your life.... nothing more; nothing less..
Good luck....
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reader, mishi 1 +, writes (4 January 2016):
 I am sorry that you are going through that. Believe me you are not only one who is going through that pain.I had same situation. Its almost three years ago and still I am in pain. I can't trust any one any more. but , I am sure with time I will be heal.
All I can say you have to be happy to see his real face.you deserve someone who is not selfish and really love you.
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