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writes:My boufriend of 2years is incredibly stubborn he is 18 like me and claims to be "one of the most mature people of our age group" how ever it will stop at nothing to prove a point and if say anything prime example being last night he always spins it round to make me out to be the bad guy- he doesn't like the fact i have to make compromises about seeing him because of my new job and he doesn't like me doing overtime which at the end of the day is how I can afford to buy him good presents and go on holiday with because apparently I'm putting of seeing him. Its not very often we argue which is a good thing but when we do it feels like the whole relationship has blown up in my face.all I wanted was to see him earlier on in the morning before I go to work but he seems to think that he has got try and make the extra effort to see me onviously I'm upset and when I told him he said I was blackmailing him I can't win and shouldn't have to keep rolling over and do what he wants how can I get out of this rut with jepordising my relationship and am I being unreasonable??
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): I don't believe you are being unreasonable at all - you have the right to be comfortable in your relationship, and if he's taking that away from you than I'd honestly advise walking away. As for him being 'one of the most mature people of your age group', if he were that mature, he would certainly not be treating you this way. You are going out of your way to make the relationship work, but he either can't see this or refuses to. I've encountered many a man like this and from my experience they can rarely be changed. Take time to think things over, maybe list the pros and cons of your relationship and decide if it's worth the effort.Good luck! :)
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reader, Rosy +, writes (19 March 2011):
Tell your boyfriend he is very immature, being an adult isn't telling your partner off like a child, it's acceptance and compromise!Tell him unless he wants to pay for you everytime you go out then you'll stop doing overtime and rely on him.He also seems controlling, he thinks if he puts you down enough then you'll believe the rubbish he tells you.
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