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writes:okay so i have been dating this guy for 3 months now. I love him to pieces. only one problem his exgirlfriend of 5 years still lives with him they have been broken up for 9 months now. She is a lazy sloth who will not get a job and he pays for her car, insurance, cigs, food. On top of it her boyfriend moved in to and he pays for whatever my boyfriend wont cover. neither of them pay rent. Im in the military and have to relocate for 19 weeks and am afraid something will happen while im gone. She still wants him back, but he tells me that he hates her, but hes to kind hearted to throw her to the streets. what should i do..ileave in 4 days
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 May 2009):
 Is he going to be PCS'ing with you? If not, then I don't know what to say. He obviously like the living arrangement more then he says or he would have done something about it.
I have never understood the whole living with your ex.. unless MAYBE if there is a child involved..
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): Hmmm quite a prediciment. Does he realize that he is only enabling her to be that way? Have you told him of your fears about something happening while you are away? I would tell him that the two of you cant move forward in your relationship as long as his past is still in the picture. Tell him that you really have feelings for him and after you get home you would like to really concentrate on moving forward and want to be comfortable in the relationship. You will be gone 19 days? Thats enough time for her to get a job. Ask him if, for your peace of mind, he could tell her that she has a time limit there and needs to become self sufficent. That way at least you have a goal to work towards. I would say that you have been very patient with him but its time to compromise. Good luck!....J
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