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writes:me and boyfriend together 5 months and i sleep over once or twice a week. when there tho i feel in the way as he dont like me in the kitchen and says i will make crumbs and he likes to do things his way. wont let me wash up or anything 4him. also he dont let me leave anything there, toothbrush or shower gel and says to take it home and bring it bak each time i go. i take my own as he dont like to share things like tooth paste shower gel and creams, like to have his own. says he does love me but take it slow as he been on his own for years and getting used to a relationship again slowly. i want 2 see him more and stay more but he likes 2 keep it a couple of nites a week as likes his space and go slowly, let it build up over time. i feel like i rush him and rush it at times, how do i make him want and miss me more? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): thanks for advice and yes i asked him but just said about taking things slowly and not been with anyone in years now got to used to his own space and takes time to get used to a g.friend again. anyway thanks to u both and hope more replys come in. i only stay 1 or 2 nights a wk as he dont like me 2 stay alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): Hi there. I am the same as your boyfriend I have been in my relationship for 7 months but do not like my partner to do anything in my house. I do not let him make anythin incase he makes a mess. Even if he makes a mess I will clean it myself. He also feels strangely about this and doesn't understand. I do not love him any less. Perhaps your boyfriend prefers to keep his things his own and the way he likes them after all you shouldn't have to share everything such as shower gel and toothpaste? Should you not bring your own anyway. I don't see it as petty in any way. I don't think you should be worried. Also the other advisor states about there being someone else, I doubt it he is just stuck in his ways for the moment and is used to his own space.If you were in the way and he didn't want you to stay he would not invite you too.Good luck
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reader, Naley1289  +, writes (7 April 2011):
 That doesn't exactly sound very good. When was the last time he had a relationship? Because he's just not used to having a girlfriend again. You know after a while of doing the same thing or being single, you kind of forget how it is to be in a relationship again. Do you think maybe there might be someone else? Did you ask him why it bothers him when you leave your stuff behind in his house?
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