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30-35,
anonymous
writes:me and my boyfriend have been fighting for a little while, i'd say a few weeks. he says that i am becoming distant because of my job which is understandable because i work most of the week. but when i don't work i'm always with him. he says i'm also changing because i'm becoming more independent and less reliable on him and he doesn't like that because he likes being my rock. he still is my rock but he doesn't believe it so much anymore. me and my boyfriend went to a party and he got angry with me because someone stole something out of my purse that was his and he blamed it on me. i told him it wasn't my fault and he said that he hates when i back talk him and he drove me home. he hasn't talked to me or anything for a day and i've been talking to our best friend and he says that my boyfriend is really mad at me. i'm super worried that he will break up with me, i love him a lot and we have been going out for almost a year and a half. what do i do to fix this?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 July 2010):
I'm super-worried that this guy actually has problems in his head that are starting to surface. Seriously. This guy is starting to come across as quite abusive. The signs are there. He wants you to be reliant on him and not independent so the only way you can do anything in your life is by coming and begging him. Something was stolen by another person from your purse and he blamed it on you. That's a sign that whatever happens in your lives together, he will always blame you whether right or wrong. And to top it off, he doesn't like you speaking your mind and trying to talk to him? So when you need to talk to him in the future about something important, he won't listen. Genuinely, you're in a lot of danger with this guy. I know these signs, because my father is a cold hearted narcissist who uses all these things on my mother and has done for about 30 years. He always blames her for everything, he never likes her speaking back and he convinced her to leave work and now leaves her out of pocket as much as he can. The worst part? she falls for the lot because he's destroyed her. Not something I want to see happen to you. You're in more danger than you know with this guy, and it might actually be best for you to end it now before you end up in a big mess.
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