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writes:Hi aunts, maybe this is a strange question but here goes. I've dated my boyfriend for about 11 months. He is older than me. I think he was quite the introvert before I met him. I didn't mind that. I am not a needy or clingy person and I need to be by myself more than is average, I think.I have a random range of hobbies/activities that I enjoy and I don't mind sharing with him sometimes, but it's starting to bug me that he wants to take up or be involved in LITERALLY EVERYTHING that I do. I know it's because he thinks I don't spend enough time with him and I'm guessing he figures that if he gets involved in all the same stuff he will be around me more. I need my space sometimes and I resent the fact that now he's decided to do something other than World of Warcraft (which I didn't ask him to quit, by the way) he has latched on to all the things I've previously used as "me time."I can't tell him what to like or how to spend his time, but I'm really annoyed by this. It is bad enough that I'm considering asking him for a break in our relationship. What can I do to get over it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): I agree with satindesire. One day if you continue this relationship, you will be happy that the 2 of you share so many interests. So many couples have no common interests and then just go out separately. I know two couples who have no common interests and one couple even go on separate vacations with friends. I used to know another couple like that years ago. I guess that is fine if that both like, but it has been part of the reason that one couple split.
My wife and I have all of our main interests as common interests and never have to argue where to go on vacation or what to do when we go out. We started that shortly after we started dating, about the same time as you. The only difference is that we were in our 30s at the time.
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